Being overly nice makes you a backstabber?
There are plenty of reasons to think twice before you trust someone. But should you consider nice people as well?
I always said that I do not trust overly nice people: they tend to hide something and do not have opinions.
I hate people without opinions. Especially when I really want a feedback on something, a debate on different social happenings and so on. If someone just agrees with everyone or (s)he doesn’t have a position, makes me wonder. It always did!
Anyway, looks like science backs this idea up with a study presented at the Annual Meeting of the Association for Computational Linguistics in Beijing, by these guys: Vlad Niculae Srijan Kumar, Jordan Boyd-Graber, Cristian Danescu-Niculescu-Mizil — judging some names, I think two of them are Romanians, which makes me say Chapeau twice.
Their research suggests we may need to do a double take on those who are “too nice” and overly polite — so, my hunch was real! And in all this time I was not a hater, but someone who fairly said what she thinks and backstabbing/betrayal were not expected from my side. Or fellows like me.
Since asking some fellows to come in a lab or in an office and give them a bunch of requirements on how to stab your coworker in 101 steps was not an option, these 3 guys from Cornell University, University of Maryland and the University of Colorado used a game to analyse people behaviour. Sneaky, huh?
The study found that those who are overly nice to their coworkers, friends or you name them are more likely to stab them in the back than their less polite (let’s just call them straightforward) fellows.
I rest my case and I share the study: https://www.cs.cornell.edu/~cristian/Betrayal_files/betrayal.pdf